Jan 17, 2016 More on pursuing non-anger
Here are some recent thoughts on the topic:
– Remember that anger — which also contains the letters for “rage” — is rooted in fear, and often in pain. Fear is weakening, not strengthening.
– Non-anger helps one concentrate, strategize, strengthen, achieve clarity and non-distraction, and be on top of one’s game.
– When one is not angry, s/he can better perceive and understand others’ anger and other feelings and pulse, and be more perceptive in general of humans and other beings and circumstances.
– Do not numb yourself nor merely withdraw from things that anger or otherwise make you feel uncomfortable. Engage fully with life. Withdrawal and anger are dualistic and simply keep one’s feelings under wraps ready to explode later on like a volcano. Productively engaging our fears, feelings and pain helps return us towards non-duality while enabling us to deflate, dissipate and neutralize our adverse feelings.
– We must fully know our anger and other feelings to be able successfully to live and navigate through our lives. To avoid knowing and handling our anger and other feelings is to abdicate ourselves to invasive and detrimental forces and circumstances.
– Letting ourselves get debilitated with anger, fear and pain is dualistic. Treating and engaging discomfort, fear, anger and pain as part of one’s current situation — never attaching to nor judging our feelings nor letting our adverse feelings define us — is non-dualistic. As Ram Dass, among others, suggests, we can simply notice and identify a negative feeling to let that feeling continue on its way, rather than to hold onto and exacerbate that adverse feeling.
– It is easier to go into an emotional tailspin over a trespass from a friend than a perceived foe, because we have higher expectations of our friends and allies than with strangers and known foes. Some of our “friends” may cross our path. When others are able to weaken our resolve and psychological strength by crossing our path, we have abdicated our power to them, when we must work to enhance and grow our beneficial power, not weaken it.
– When a seeming ally and anyone else appears to cross our path, the last thing to do is to curl up into a proverbial ball and cry in the corner of the room. That merely leaves one exposed to further harmful attacks. We must be ready at all times to return ourselves to a state of powerful harmony and balance. That can start with verbally or non-verbally telling ourselves “Now moving onwards, I will return to harmony,” or chanting the powerful sound and vibration of “Om“, or expressing any other verbal or sound cue to bring one back to balance.
– When a formerly seemingly reliable judge or prosecutor crosses a criminal defense lawyer’s path, the lawyer must remember that others have their own agendas, and that a criminal defense lawyer must never rely on them to be loyalists. Criminal defense lawyers certainly can identify prosecutors and judges who often are more favorable than their colleagues to criminal defendants, but it is folly to expect them to have the same agenda as criminal defendants or to act according to some contrived script. Humans do not act on scripts. They so often are unpredictable and even mercurial.
Meditation and other mindfulness exercises certainly can help disintegrate anger, and all the more quickly when I unceasingly continue my daily practice of meditation and mindfulness. For me, meditation and mindfulness help strengthen my path towards non-duality, create space to take on each battle powerfully, and provide the power of softness that is so vital to internal martial arts.