Aug 20, 2017 How to avoid injury from the insults and firebombs in court and beyond
How does one avoid injury from the insults and firebombs in court and beyond?
The story goes that one day a small bird tried landing on the palm of a t’ai chi ch’uan master. However, the t’ai chi master made his hand go so soft and ever-changing with the bird’s movements that the bird had nowhere to grasp hold of, so flew away.
That is a great metaphor for never letting the bows and arrows of others bother nor harm us as we proceed forward to victory in court and in life. As a follow-up to yesterday’s blogposting on declining being sprayed with prune juice and diarrhea in court and beyond, here are some other great lessons in that same vein, many overlapping and all rooted in non-duality:
– “If somebody is a problem for you, it’s not that they should change, it’s that you need to change. If they’re a problem for themselves that’s their karma, if they’re causing you trouble that’s your problem on yourself.” – Baba Ram Dass
– Recently, a car was tailgating me while I was on the righthand lane of a three-way road, so he could have easily passed me. I reacted only curiously in my mind rather than outwardly; I felt free from any risk of harm. The car ultimately turned and the driver stuck out a side bird flip through his window, which seemed to have been his only effort to communicate with me beyond the prior tailgating. Did the bird flip come from the tailgating receiving no reaction from me, from my not speeding up when tailgated, or because traffic was too heavy? Is it for me to wonder the reason in the first place, rather than to carry on enjoying the drive on this stretch of road and the rest of the path of life?
– One day I was speaking with a taijiquan teacher about yelling people. He replied: “Why try to figure them out? It is just wind.” That advice is great for staying powerfully calm and unrattled in the face of someone exploding in an unjustified tirade.
– Akkosaka “ insulted & cursed [Gotama Buddha] with rude, harsh words.” Gotama replied: “I am neither eating together nor sharing your company, brahman. It’s all yours.” The Buddha further said: ” You make things worse when you flare up at someone who’s angry. Whoever doesn’t flare up at someone who’s angry wins a battle hard to win.” Akkosa Sutta (translated by Thanissaro Bhikkhu).
– “By perceiving all , I will practice without grasping to release all beings from the bondage of the disturbing unsubdued mind and karma.” as illusoryGeshe Langri Tangpa, Eight Verses for Training the Mind