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In Persuading, Remember That People are Like Ever-Changing Rivers
Good criminal defense lawyers talk about judges and prosecutors, because an important part of persuading is knowing the people we are persuading and battling. However, the judge, prosecutor or anyone else we see today is not the same one we see tomorrow nor saw yesterday,...
Challenges versus problems in Virginia criminal court
In many ways, my Fairfax criminal defense lawyer blog is a tool for my self exploration and self development, and to remind myself of the best ways to get and stay on the right path. If I do not write down and crystallize my key...
Engaging with clients in the place where they are, even if on a roller coaster
One of my favorite clients and I were debriefing about his case, and talking and joking a lot just as regular people — not as lawyer to client — in a courthouse conference room, after we scheduled the next proceeding in his case. This man...
The persuasive power of treating the battlefield as a playground
My teacher Ram Dass talks of everyone being connected to everyone and everything else, to the point that if we reached non-duality, we would perceive of everything and everyone as an indivisible whole. See page 173 (apparently from Ram Dass’s 1970’s lecture in Maryland). If that is true,...
How a criminal defense lawyer can persuade without being sucked into human drama
Most of my criminal defense clients manage their daily lives rather well in the face of their pending court cases. Some get consumed by their cases from time to time, and sometimes share that with me. I have thought of criminal defense lawyers being akin...
“I felt I had touched his heart” – Sister Ardeth Platte. Persuading with non-anger
I grew up with a lot of anger. Of course, anger is rooted in fear. When I did not feel anger, I often felt a lot of tension. It took decades for me to come to sufficient grips with the bigotry that so many people directed...
Dealing with obsessed clients, empathizing with all clients, and getting to zero limits
In the past, when people asked me if I did family law, I sometimes would respond that I am more than happy for other lawyers to have to deal with levels of obsession among their clients that apparently are much higher than among criminal defense...